May 24

I’ve Tried



Lying, thinking

Last night
How to find my soul a home
Where water is not thirsty
And bread loaf is not stone
I came up with one thing
And I don’t believe I’m wrong
That nobody,
But nobody,
Can make it out here alone.

- from the poem
Alone by Maya Angelou

The biggest thing that has kept moving when I want to  give up… is support.
As Maya says, Nobody, But nobody can make it out here alone.

I’ve tried. You know…  the whole independent woman thing.

I don’t want to seem weak.

And yet, over my years as an artist and creative entrepreneur, the only times I’ve made progress is when I didn’t do it on my own.

Setting up a daily practice… with help.
Putting my work in a gallery… with help.
My first solo show… with help.
My first blogpost… with help.
My first online event… with help.
My first online program… with help.
Every year since I’ve started my business… with help.

(Here I am with my biz accountability partner Wendy. We’ve met weekly the past 5 years.)

Oprah has help. So does the Dali Lama, and the President, and Ellen Degeneres, and ANYONE stretching out of their comfort zone.

You see, you can motivate yourself to a certain point and then… you can’t. The willpower and discipline wear out. That’s when you need support, a team, someone else.

If you decide to lone wolf it and be a hermit in a cave, I get it. I’m an introvert and sometimes a cave looks mighty tempting. And yet, in a cave I’m not challenged or loved into another level.

Last week during a mentorship training, I asked what keeps my clients from reaching out for support.

See if you recognize yourself in any of these things on the list...

  • I don’t know if I can trust someone else
  • I feel like I can do it on my own
  • I’m worried
  • I feel embarrassed
  • I don’t want to be responsible for someone else
  • I feel awkward
  • I feel like I don’t deserve it
  • I’m afraid I'm always asking for help and not giving enough help in return
  • I’m scared to allow someone in and get hurt
  • I don’t want to be rejected
  • I don’t want to feel disappointed
  • I don’t want to be a parasite
  • I feel like I should be able to do it on my own
  • Being supported makes me feel uncomfortable as I am usually the one supporting.
Here’s why I’m sharing this with you...

It’s hard to put yourself out there. To ask for help,
To show weakness and vulnerability,
To show you don’t know,

(Here I am with some of our Woman Unleashed Team)

Being held,

You can do SO MUCH MORE with support.

What’s that thing you’ve been wanting to do and you haven’t been able to do? What vision, creation, project, idea? Right now, make a list… who do you know who can help? Who do you know who might know someone who can help?

There is someone who has the exact talents, abilities, knowledge, encouragement, vision, inspiration you need. Waiting.

Because nobody, but nobody can make it out here alone.

All my aloha,


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